MAMA "WHERE ARE YOU? (By Gaby Vargas) again Mama Where Are You?
By Gaby Vargas.
What do you think about emos punks, skinheads, darks and other urban tribes that exist today as a social phenomenon? "he asks a reporter recently, in the city of León, Guanajuato, at the end of a conference. The first thing that comes to my mind is the question that heads this release.
This is nothing new and at the same time, it is. During all periods of modern history, we had several demonstrations by youth against the establishment: language, hairstyle, music, tattoos, dress, and other places you frequent expressions of communication. Internal codes that make a difference belonging and the rest of the world. Own personality and ideology, which are left to maturity.
What I find troubling is that, in addition to the above, we now have a small factor in addition, a new way of living in the family at all seek to adapt today: mom, children, grandparents husband.
believe this change is the greatest social revolution of recent times. What is it? The woman, mother and mistress of the house, we are not at home. It's that simple.
Women are very proud of the opportunities we have today.
We've earned it. The conquest was not easy and it has required a long road of effort, struggle and sacrifice. Keep several balls spinning in the air at the same time is our virtue. However, without a doubt, we are paying a price. What does this have to do with urban tribes? A lot.
One reason, from my point of view, which is increasingly common to see news in newspapers such as: 'Increased Youth Suicide', 'The age of drug consumption is reduced, "" sexual activity among young people starts at an early age ',' Increase sexually transmitted diseases', 'Depression among youth is becoming more' and other notes about alcoholism, violence, bullying and other situations experienced by our youth today, is this: Missing mom at home.
Because the four and a half years of research dedicated to youth, and focus groups conducted for the production of books Quiúbole with ... I am with sufficient authority to say that young people do not feel seen. Do not feel heard. They feel emotionally abandoned.
The lack of sense of belonging leads young people look and join a family where they feel understood and supported, to give them a kind of self-esteem, courage to do things.
What?
All that we wanted. Anyone providing a type of avoidance, to mask pain or street, no matter if it destroys or causes the death .. Moms
, wake up! When we are present, we are not actually ... There is always a cell phone, an email to answer, or a novel that address. Said an old lady today's moms are kind of traffic police: Where you going?, What time do you get?, Have you done your homework?, Who do you go? And we consider it sufficient to mention that, too often, these questions are via phone.
is a fact: Moms, no one can replace us. No grandma, nanny, daycare, neighbor, Game Boy, computer or movie will supply what we are capable of giving. Who replaces a hug, a look, a word of support, a presence, an ear to listen and understand it?
do, the result will be a confident child, without having to join an urban tribe and a sense of familiar belonging.
will also have a suitcase that will give you the confidence and self esteem they need for the future.
Excellent reflection Gaby Vargas,
This is an email that I sent a good friend and I feel very important and I share here with all of the readership ... ANALYZE ....¿ where mothers are working? we are waiting for what our children .. or who are your friends? "Or places of reunion for them? Reflect a bit. and let us help ourselves, with our own children .. Blessings!
